There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.” Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.” There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another. Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.
When my husband and I stood on the altar almost a year ago, I was thinking about a revelation he had shared with me about us getting married. For both of us this was a leap of faith. I was taking a second chance on love and he was stepping into marriage for the first time. I remember one day he came to me all excited. He told me this vision he had about our hearts becoming one after we said our vows. Now, I cannot tell it exactly like he did, but I will give it my best shot.
This all stemmed from a day when he gave me a piece of his heart that he had never shared with anyone and likewise I did the same thing. He said in the vision he had my piece of heart in his hand not knowing what to do with it, so he took it to God. In his vision my husband was running to God saying , “Daddy! Daddy! look what I have!” He then explained that he did not know what to do with it. So God took the two pieces and closed His hands over them and presented it to John and explained to him that He was taking our hearts and making them one with one burn for Him.
Like I said, John tells it much better, but you get the gist of it. The moral of the story is simple, marriage needs to begin with two hearts willing to surrender their own wills to God which in turn allows Him to do a marvelous work in the lives of both persons. John and I know that if we ever make this marriage about us and not God, we are headed for some serious trouble!